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How to have a discussion in a (hostile) online environment

Houseman

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I have no formal education in debate. I've never been part of a debate club, and I am not an expert on this subject.

This thread is an opportunity to share your most favorite or most effective debate tactics, as well as your most disliked and hated tactics. Any tactics at all, really. Let's pour out all we know. It'll be fun!

Here are my favorites:



Argumentum ad absurdum:
This one is my go-to. I used it, I think, exclusively in the other topic about Hitler. My understanding of the tactic is to take an opponent's claim, and scale it until it breaks. If it doesn't break, then it is valid logic, and should be agreed with. If it breaks, then it's invalid, and should be disagreed with. You can find out which is which by using a little imagination to conceive of a situation where your opponent's logic breaks down.

Examples:
A: "Based on these statistics of this small population, black people are dumber than white people"
B: "When you expand the sample size to include these two neighboring areas, the statistics even out."

A: "Hitler is bad because he killed people"
B: "Is it bad for you to kill someone in self defense? If not, then killing is not always bad. You'd need to explain the difference" (which one should be able to easily do)


Define your terms:
Sometimes people like to play fast and loose with words, and unknowingly or not, try to slip things by you by packing complex ideas inside of simple words. For example a group that you disagree with might be called "The Good Guys". How could you be against the good guys? Doesn't that make you a bad guy? Don't fall into this trap. Question what this group actually does. Who are they really? Having these questions answered puts you in a much better position, because now you're dealing with the actual rather than the title.

Example(s):
A: "God allowed slavery, and slavery is bad, so God is bad".
B: "What did slavery in those years consist of? If you were an Israelite slave you had to do 7 years toil and then you get freed and also got your own plot of land so that you could be independent. That doesn't sound so bad"

A: "We're Antifa. If you're against us, you're a Nazi!"
B: "Yes, but what do you do?"
A: "Violently brawl with peaceful demonstrations!"
B: "That's why I'm against you"


Socratic reasoning:
I don't like to directly state things, because it opens me up to "attack", as it were. Instead I like to ask innocent little questions that probe my opponent down a path of reasoning of my choosing. This is also one of my go-to's and can be combined with ad absurdum. The only things stated as fact while using this tactic should be unassailable, lest you lose momentum.

A: "God is bad!"
B: "Why do you say that?"
A: "Because he punishes people"
B: "Your parents punished you when you were a child, were they bad?"
A: "No, they did it because they loved me"

Here are my most disliked:

Apples and oranges
Whenever I use an analogy, people will be like "BUT IT'S DIFFERENT, IT'S NOT EXACTLY THE SAME SO IT DOESN'T COUNT!".

That's the point of an analogy, though. It is necessary to compare the situation against a different, yet similar situation. That's what an analogy is. Pointing out the differences does not invalidate the similarities. Apples and oranges can still be compared in all sorts of ways.

Examples:

A: "That's like throwing the baby out with the bathwater"
B: "That's nothing like my situation! First of all, I would never throw out a baby!"

Agree to disagree:
No, you're just wrong and don't want to admit it. You want to pretend our claims are both equally valid. Unless we're debating which flavor of ice cream is better, no, our claims are not equally valid. Even if we're both wrong, one of us is more wrong. That person is usually one who suggests a stalemate.

Rejecting the principle of charity:
The principle of charity suggests that you should attack the strongest version of your opponent's argument. If someone makes a leap in logic or makes a tiny slip-up, this should be overlooked. If one presents an argument in a weak way, the argument should be considered as if it were presented in a strong way. One should not focus on what, exactly, was said, but the idea that they're trying to express.

Example: This is the post that got me banned from The Escapist. . Here, Gethsemani focuses on a few specific words and rejects all attempts to reframe another user's argument in a way that makes it stronger, even saying "you can't get around what CriticalGaming actually wrote."

This is an undue focus on semantics and terminology and a willful disregard of the actual argument. Gethsemani had no interest in discussing the subject in good faith.


So those are my most liked and disliked. What are yours?
 

Arnox

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Re: How to debate

My one piece of advice is to always keep control of yourself. Even if you're super pissed inside, you suck it up, toughen up, and continue to be calm in your speaking. Never let them know that they got to you.

As to complaints I don't think I really have any specific ones. Maybe people not even trying to see it from your side and just insulting you right off the bat. No logical argument or anything.
 

Vendor-Lazarus

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Re: How to debate

Interesting, thank you. will read more thoroughly when I get back from work.
 

infinityshock

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Re: How to debate

Arnox said:
My one piece of advice is to always keep control of yourself. Even if you're super pissed inside, you suck it up, toughen up, and continue to be calm in your speaking. Never let them know that they got to you.

As to complaints I don't think I really have any specific ones. Maybe people not even trying to see it from your side and just insulting you right off the bat. No logical argument or anything.
that's adorably hilarious while being absolutely pathetic at the same times.

you let words get such control over you that you need to expend so much brainpower controlling yourself that you have none left for the actual debate.

simply entering into the state of losing self control is losing the debate.

this explains much...
 

Arnox

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Re: How to debate

infinityshock said:
Arnox said:
My one piece of advice is to always keep control of yourself. Even if you're super pissed inside, you suck it up, toughen up, and continue to be calm in your speaking. Never let them know that they got to you.

As to complaints I don't think I really have any specific ones. Maybe people not even trying to see it from your side and just insulting you right off the bat. No logical argument or anything.
that's adorably hilarious while being absolutely pathetic at the same times.

you let words get such control over you that you need to expend so much brainpower controlling yourself that you have none left for the actual debate.

simply entering into the state of losing self control is losing the debate.

this explains much...
*shrugs* Few people can actually control what they feel. And I wouldn't recommend that anyway. It's far better to control your actions and words instead. To bridle your passion but not to stop it.
 

Monoochrom

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Re: How to debate

infinityshock said:
Arnox said:
My one piece of advice is to always keep control of yourself. Even if you're super pissed inside, you suck it up, toughen up, and continue to be calm in your speaking. Never let them know that they got to you.

As to complaints I don't think I really have any specific ones. Maybe people not even trying to see it from your side and just insulting you right off the bat. No logical argument or anything.
that's adorably hilarious while being absolutely pathetic at the same times.

you let words get such control over you that you need to expend so much brainpower controlling yourself that you have none left for the actual debate.

simply entering into the state of losing self control is losing the debate.

this explains much...
A interesting point coming from such a obviously emotionally fueled person.
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No offense to OP. Forums aren't for debate. Anyone trying to tell you as much is a tool. Debate occurs in a formal setting on a specific subject. It's essentially a rhetorical sport, which is why such “rules“ exist. That does not mean that any such argument is actually invalid simply.because it is considered poor form in a formal setting. XD

Why for instance would who a person is not be relevant to a argument? Obviously if a person has a vested interest in a certain thing or objective, I should probably be extra cautious of deceit when they speak on the subject.

Why should a argument itself be disregarded simply because it is peppered with personal insults?

Personally, I'd rather take in the full context of a argument and not resort to so-thought argument killers. It's not like it's difficult to go “Aha! Strawman!“.
 

Houseman

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Re: How to debate

Monoochrom said:
No offense to OP. Forums aren't for debate. Anyone trying to tell you as much is a tool. Debate occurs in a formal setting on a specific subject. It's essentially a rhetorical sport, which is why such “rules“ exist. That does not mean that any such argument is actually invalid simply.because it is considered poor form in a formal setting. XD
Should we call it something else, then? Discussion? Argument? I agree that a formal debate and an online forum are wildly different environments.

Why for instance would who a person is not be relevant to a argument? Obviously if a person has a vested interest in a certain thing or objective, I should probably be extra cautious of deceit when they speak on the subject.

Why should a argument itself be disregarded simply because it is peppered with personal insults?

Personally, I'd rather take in the full context of a argument and not resort to so-thought argument killers. It's not like it's difficult to go “Aha! Strawman!“.
Are... are you asking me? I never said any of the things you're questioning.
 

Monoochrom

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Re: How to debate

I consider it discussion and no, those are rhetorical questions, though you can use them as a jumping off point if you so wish
 

Houseman

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Re: How to debate

Monoochrom said:
I consider it discussion and no, those are rhetorical questions, though you can use them as a jumping off point if you so wish
K, I changed the topic title to better match, and thanks for clearing that up.

Why for instance would who a person is not be relevant to a argument? Obviously if a person has a vested interest in a certain thing or objective, I should probably be extra cautious of deceit when they speak on the subject.

Why should a argument itself be disregarded simply because it is peppered with personal insults?

Personally, I'd rather take in the full context of a argument and not resort to so-thought argument killers. It's not like it's difficult to go “Aha! Strawman!“.
I don't disagree with any of this. Too many people are looking for avenues of escape, so that they don't have to think or so that they can escape conflict. This, combined with an ego that won't allow them to just leave, manifests itself in trying to use these things to "win". I've seen it many times where the second someone feels insulted, they'll go "AD-HOMINEM", or "SEE YOU CAN'T ARGUE AGAINST ME ALL YOU CAN DO IS INSULT ME!"

Nah, I can both argue against you and insult you at the same time. Don't get distracted.

Speaking of that, going along with what Arnox said, I do like trying distract my opponent with an emotional investment. I intentionally make use of metaphors are upsetting, or things that cause heightened emotions. If I can rattle you with this, then you won't be thinking clearly. You'd be letting your emotions cloud your judgement. I'll already have the upper hand.

Going back to your thing, I've also seen that intellectually dishonest people will use any opportunity to label someone as a nazi, fascist, racist, etc. Once they label you they'll leave, because arguing with a [label] isn't worth it. I don't think there is any defense against this, but after you do this, you can call them out on this tactic, exposing what they are doing it and why.

My thinking is that if you expose a dishonest tactic by explaining what it is and why people use it, it loses its power. These dishonest tactics only work because people get tricked into thinking that they are valid, but they aren't.
 

Signa

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As I said in the shout box, I think Sargon of Akkad helped me with this more than anything else. He helped me understand what my guiding principles are, and from that point it's easier to build an argument for something based on those principles. It's also easier too deconstruct someone else's arguments if they didn't build their position from their principles. I remember saelune saying something recently that she cares for the mentally ill, but she doesn't care about them if they are republican. She was using mental illness as a way to virtue signal and not care about the ill at all. She only cares about her team, and that's her principle.
 

infinityshock

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Re: How to debate

Arnox said:
infinityshock said:
that's adorably hilarious while being absolutely pathetic at the same times.

you let words get such control over you that you need to expend so much brainpower controlling yourself that you have none left for the actual debate.

simply entering into the state of losing self control is losing the debate.

this explains much...
*shrugs* Few people can actually control what they feel. And I wouldn't recommend that anyway. It's far better to control your actions and words instead. To bridle your passion but not to stop it.
feelings are weakness that skews effectiveness and efficiency.

by 'controlling' youre wasting already limited resources that could be used to better focus on more pressing matters
 

infinityshock

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Re: How to debate

Monoochrom said:
infinityshock said:
that's adorably hilarious while being absolutely pathetic at the same times.

you let words get such control over you that you need to expend so much brainpower controlling yourself that you have none left for the actual debate.

simply entering into the state of losing self control is losing the debate.

this explains much...
A interesting point coming from such a obviously emotionally fueled person.
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No offense to OP. Forums aren't for debate. Anyone trying to tell you as much is a tool. Debate occurs in a formal setting on a specific subject. It's essentially a rhetorical sport, which is why such “rules“ exist. That does not mean that any such argument is actually invalid simply.because it is considered poor form in a formal setting. XD

Why for instance would who a person is not be relevant to a argument? Obviously if a person has a vested interest in a certain thing or objective, I should probably be extra cautious of deceit when they speak on the subject.

Why should a argument itself be disregarded simply because it is peppered with personal insults?

Personally, I'd rather take in the full context of a argument and not resort to so-thought argument killers. It's not like it's difficult to go “Aha! Strawman!“.
an interesting point considering no emotions were involved.

you may want to check out the definitions and synonyms for the term 'debate.'

the literal purpose of the internet is to exchange information...which in some instances is the epitome of a debate.
 

Guilion

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I firmly believe the best way to have "Discussions" on the internet when one side is clearly trying to argue with you in bad faith is to find a way to lead the conversation in cricles for hours to no end.

It won't solve shit and neither side will convince the other of its' viewpoints but as long as one side gets pissed, and that side isn't me, I consider that a victory.

Also bail on threads that you know for a fact will go absolutely nowhere if you continue the conversation, chances are said conversation is more important to the other side than it is to you.
 

infinityshock

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Guilion said:
I firmly believe the best way to have "Discussions" on the internet when one side is clearly trying to argue with you in bad faith is to find a way to lead the conversation in cricles for hours to no end.

It won't solve shit and neither side will convince the other of its' viewpoints but as long as one side gets pissed, and that side isn't me, I consider that a victory.

Also bail on threads that you know for a fact will go absolutely nowhere if you continue the conversation, chances are said conversation is more important to the other side than it is to you.
signed
 

Signa

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Hey, IS. Speaking of hostile online environments, I would love to watch you post on The Escapist in the Religion and Politic boards. Don't get me wrong, they will ban you pretty much instantly, but they are all the kind of people that clap their hands over their ears and REEEEEE if you use a word like "retarded" around them. Could be a good laugh since you love shitposting so much.
 
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