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I wandered into the parenting section of reddit, and got frustrated again.
https://www.reddit.com/r/casualChildAbuse/comments/9bvy0x/meta_is_it_just_me_or_does_this_sub_have_a_lot_of/
I've heard this here and there for years, but the new "common wisdom" is that parents should not be spanking their children, and should instead just use words and reason with them, or otherwise use non-physical punishments.
But the frustrating part is HOW people go about pushing this idea.
For starters, they never refer to anything as "spanking", instead they use loaded words with different meanings like "beating", "hitting", "abusing". This is disingenuous for reasons that should be obvious. It's possible to spank a child with a cool head and a measured hand, in other words, not in anger. Let's not pretend that a full-grown man or woman is throwing punches at a kid.
Furthermore, due to the wording they have already decided upon, anyone who defends spanking gets called an "child abuser"
Secondly, very few people want to argue this topic with actual facts, everyone just asserts that this is just how the world works now, and if you disagree, we'll just call you a horrible person. No facts, no studies, no evidence, just labeling.
As for me, I'm all for whatever reasonable methods a parent decides to take to raise their children. If a parent wants to just reason with a child, go for it. If a parent wants to sit him in the corner, it's none of my business. As long as you're not leaving marks, do whatever you need to for your children. You know best.
I've never understood the non-hyperbolic arguments as to why one shouldn't spank their children. Actually, I've never even SEEN an argument that doesn't involve calling spanking something it's not. I would imagine that each child responds better to a certain type of discipline, so to say "oh it just doesn't work", how could you even begin to know that?
Anyway, that's my rant. Spanking as discipline, Yea or Nay?
https://www.reddit.com/r/casualChildAbuse/comments/9bvy0x/meta_is_it_just_me_or_does_this_sub_have_a_lot_of/
I've heard this here and there for years, but the new "common wisdom" is that parents should not be spanking their children, and should instead just use words and reason with them, or otherwise use non-physical punishments.
But the frustrating part is HOW people go about pushing this idea.
For starters, they never refer to anything as "spanking", instead they use loaded words with different meanings like "beating", "hitting", "abusing". This is disingenuous for reasons that should be obvious. It's possible to spank a child with a cool head and a measured hand, in other words, not in anger. Let's not pretend that a full-grown man or woman is throwing punches at a kid.
Furthermore, due to the wording they have already decided upon, anyone who defends spanking gets called an "child abuser"
Secondly, very few people want to argue this topic with actual facts, everyone just asserts that this is just how the world works now, and if you disagree, we'll just call you a horrible person. No facts, no studies, no evidence, just labeling.
As for me, I'm all for whatever reasonable methods a parent decides to take to raise their children. If a parent wants to just reason with a child, go for it. If a parent wants to sit him in the corner, it's none of my business. As long as you're not leaving marks, do whatever you need to for your children. You know best.
I've never understood the non-hyperbolic arguments as to why one shouldn't spank their children. Actually, I've never even SEEN an argument that doesn't involve calling spanking something it's not. I would imagine that each child responds better to a certain type of discipline, so to say "oh it just doesn't work", how could you even begin to know that?
Anyway, that's my rant. Spanking as discipline, Yea or Nay?