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I'm going to be blunt, I didn't start engaging with people in a meaningful way until I was around 18 years old (give or take) and as a result, I am unable to understand many subtleties of regular human interaction, chief among them trust.
I've taken many approaches to this, I've been untrusting to the point of delusional paranoia that everyone is out to get me and I've also been so stupidly trusting that I ended up a taxi driver's house once and was almost raped by him and right now for the first time in my life I have actual people I would consider my friends but I don't really know how far to extend my trust and to be honest if I could afford it I would just skip town and start over somewhere new again.
But that's not really my problem, maybe it's because I'm earnest to a fault but people seem to really trust me, and it's starting to become a problem, both co-workers, and friends keep relaying all their problems onto me and telling me their dark secrets and asking me for advice, which I don't get because I don't know how to deal with all those problems and half the time I want to tell them to fuck off but it's kinda hard when they've told you that they are depressed and some of them even talked about suicide, I'm not an ass I genuinely do want to help but I can't and I keep getting confused, even hard decisions such as solving problems of interpersonal drama in the D&D group fell into my lap, and granted I kinda sorta managed by complete fluke because, to be honest I don't get what they were fighting over but whatever, I'm just kinda tired an I really don't get it.
I've never trusted anyone fully in my life, I know I've never even discussed my problems with a friend so what trust is and how to earn it is something that perplexes me, I don't think I can get a correct answer but I guess it would be interesting to see what people think.
I've taken many approaches to this, I've been untrusting to the point of delusional paranoia that everyone is out to get me and I've also been so stupidly trusting that I ended up a taxi driver's house once and was almost raped by him and right now for the first time in my life I have actual people I would consider my friends but I don't really know how far to extend my trust and to be honest if I could afford it I would just skip town and start over somewhere new again.
But that's not really my problem, maybe it's because I'm earnest to a fault but people seem to really trust me, and it's starting to become a problem, both co-workers, and friends keep relaying all their problems onto me and telling me their dark secrets and asking me for advice, which I don't get because I don't know how to deal with all those problems and half the time I want to tell them to fuck off but it's kinda hard when they've told you that they are depressed and some of them even talked about suicide, I'm not an ass I genuinely do want to help but I can't and I keep getting confused, even hard decisions such as solving problems of interpersonal drama in the D&D group fell into my lap, and granted I kinda sorta managed by complete fluke because, to be honest I don't get what they were fighting over but whatever, I'm just kinda tired an I really don't get it.
I've never trusted anyone fully in my life, I know I've never even discussed my problems with a friend so what trust is and how to earn it is something that perplexes me, I don't think I can get a correct answer but I guess it would be interesting to see what people think.