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What, am I just supposed to CONTROL my emotions?! Absurd!

Houseman

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During a reddit ""discussion"" about 4chan, a user said "Am I supposed to not be mad at someone calling me a slur?"

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Whether or not you get mad is entirely up to you. Other people do not have control over your thoughts and emotions, you do. They're yours. You choose whether or not you get mad.

Seeing as how many people upvoted this, they are not alone in having this viewpoint. There are probably a lot of people out there that have never even considered that they are in control of their own emotions. They never considered that they can just not get offended. They never knew it was an option.

That's sad. Maybe that's why sites like 4chan and here have trouble attracting "normal people". Maybe all those people feel that, since they can't control their emotions, they need to be very careful with who they surround themselves with. People know they'll react negatively if they see somebody say the n-word, so they'd rather save themselves the trouble.

Ecclesiastes 7:9 says "Do not be quick to take offense, for the taking of offense lodges in the bosom of fools"

Also another good one: Proverbs 14:17 "The one who is quick to anger acts foolishly, But the man who thinks things out is hated."
 

Arnox

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Founder
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Back during TOTSE/TOTSE2/Zoklet, as a newbie, you'd get hazed hard and that was done as tradition to make sure people understood that they needed to have thick skin to be there, not just because of "teh slurs", but because of the very nature of the site. You needed to learn to open yourself up to new viewpoints and not get offended by everything and the kitchen sink. I remember my first post on TOTSE2. Ugh, part of me is glad that site isn't around nowadays at all since I was kinda cringey back when I first posted and I got justifiably ass-blasted.
 
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