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Long, long time ago, I met a dude at my work that was really fun to be around. We hit it off pretty well, and within a year, I got invited to his brother's bi-annual week-long Lan party. There I met His Friends And Hit it Off Well With All Of THEM. (Sweet Jesus what is my phone doing to this post with this mandatory capitalization? ). He was living with his brother at this point, rent free, and despite not having a job, he got to stay there for years. That was until last year when depression hit him hard. He was threatening suicide and finding it impossible to be happy with anything. His brother decided to kick him out. Because my friend had burn so many bridges over the years, even his mom wasn't ready to take him in, and so he decided to move to California with another friend where he got back on his feet. So after all that ordeal, he's actually living right now.
However, the amount of resentment he has for his family is immense. Though he did express his appreciation for his brother letting him live there rent free, getting kicked out by him while he was at rock bottom was unforgivable to him.
So where do I come in? Now that he's out of the state, I wanted to make sure I didn't lose contact with all these new friends I had found. They are all good people, and sometimes it takes just a little effort to keep a friendship kindled. Since I had spent a lot of time with his brother at various points, I continued to hang out with him. Last week, I was playing pokemon go with him and his partner, and I was telling him about the bad situation my housing is in right now. He and his partner actually invited me to move in with them! So I'm pretty excited about the idea, especially after the land lady had a conversation about her expectations for people staying in my house, and she wants to outlaw drinking at all, by penalty of eviction. It's not a problem for me, but it will be for my one other rooomate. If he's evicted then I'm fucked for sure. So anyway, I was telling my friend over discord last night that I'm probably going to move in with his brother, and he said in no uncertain terms that he would unfriend me if I moved in with his brother. Bluff or emotional overraction, I called him on it immediately telling him that it wouldn't bug me because he's vowed several times that he's never coming back to Washington. After that, I started talking Overwatch with his roommate (mutual friend) and he hung up without a word. So I think he's pretty pissed at me for wanting to still be friends with his brother and move in with him. So if I lose him as a friend permanently, I will be disappointed, but he's been an increasingly bad friend over the last few years, so maybe this is inevitable.
So for conversations sake, am I being treacherous by accepting his brother's offer? Or are all bets off when it comes to securing a place to live happily?
However, the amount of resentment he has for his family is immense. Though he did express his appreciation for his brother letting him live there rent free, getting kicked out by him while he was at rock bottom was unforgivable to him.
So where do I come in? Now that he's out of the state, I wanted to make sure I didn't lose contact with all these new friends I had found. They are all good people, and sometimes it takes just a little effort to keep a friendship kindled. Since I had spent a lot of time with his brother at various points, I continued to hang out with him. Last week, I was playing pokemon go with him and his partner, and I was telling him about the bad situation my housing is in right now. He and his partner actually invited me to move in with them! So I'm pretty excited about the idea, especially after the land lady had a conversation about her expectations for people staying in my house, and she wants to outlaw drinking at all, by penalty of eviction. It's not a problem for me, but it will be for my one other rooomate. If he's evicted then I'm fucked for sure. So anyway, I was telling my friend over discord last night that I'm probably going to move in with his brother, and he said in no uncertain terms that he would unfriend me if I moved in with his brother. Bluff or emotional overraction, I called him on it immediately telling him that it wouldn't bug me because he's vowed several times that he's never coming back to Washington. After that, I started talking Overwatch with his roommate (mutual friend) and he hung up without a word. So I think he's pretty pissed at me for wanting to still be friends with his brother and move in with him. So if I lose him as a friend permanently, I will be disappointed, but he's been an increasingly bad friend over the last few years, so maybe this is inevitable.
So for conversations sake, am I being treacherous by accepting his brother's offer? Or are all bets off when it comes to securing a place to live happily?